The Second Nine Months: One Woman Tells the REAL Truth About Becoming a Mom. Finally.

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	The Second Nine Months: One Woman Tells the REAL Truth About Becoming a Mom. Finally. Vicki Glembocki Da Capo Press, 2008 - 272 pages average customer review:based on 40 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

I want to walk out of Target and leave Blair there, wailing.... Nice people work at Target. Surely someone would take her home and care for her and buy her pretty things. So begins Vicki Glembocki?s brutally honest yet hilarious memoir of her agonizing transition into motherhood. Why agonizing? Because no one told her how tough it would be. Finally, Glembocki lays out the truth about those first months with baby: the certainty that you?re doing everything wrong; the desire to kill your husband, your mother, your dog; the struggle to balance who you were with whom you?ve become-a mother. Unlike any other book on motherhood, Glembocki breaks the New Mother Code of Silence, proving that ?maternal bliss? is not innate, but learned. Funny and wise, she connects with new moms on a shockingly intimate level, letting them know that they are not alone.

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Covers all the basics and teaches common areas of confusion and concern.

When the author's daughter Blair was born she experienced maternal bliss with her new baby, until she began to doubt her skills. THE SECOND NINE MONTHS outlines the truth about her first months with her new baby, covering the common fears new mothers have about motherhood. Any new mother needs THE SECOND NINE MONTHS: it covers all the basics and teaches common areas of confusion and concern.

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Well observed, well remembered, I empathised, laughed and cried along with Vicki. This is a great book for a first time Mother, place it on the table next to you while nursing and this book becomes your friend who understands everything!

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Mixed Reaction

Ok, so I am some mixed feelings about this book. I really wanted to like it. I was very excited to see a book that claimed to speak truthfully about what is to become a mom. And to it's credit, I think it was brave of the author to put it out there and not sugar coat what she experienced. Kudos to that. And yes, I can identify with the hardships that go along with becoming a mother.

But, on the other hand, there are a few things that bother me. And I am seeing more motherhood writings go in this direction, which I am not sure is a good one. It seems to be a pendulum swing too far in the opposite direction of the "Super Mommy" era when everyone felt like they had to do it all and suck it up. Now, in reaction to that, moms are saying "hey, I am not perfect, I can't do it all, and it's hard." And that's all well and good. But, as this book did, when we go to "hey, this is really hard, so I am going to let myself off the hook of doing what I really should because it's too hard, and I don't want to", then I think it has gone too far.

There is a part in the book where she has been gone from home over a weeknd and comes home to find that "there isn't any milk" and therefore stops breastfeeding. A little glossed over in the book. Like, oh by the way, darn, no milk, guess that's it. No apologies for the fact that if she really wanted to keep breastfeeding, she would have continued to pump. No apologies for the fact that she and the baby were doing fine breastfeeding, and the only reason she stopped, ultimately was because she didn't feel like keeping up with it anymore. Not that it didn't benefit baby, or that the baby wanted to stop. Just because she didn't want to. No focus about the reasons why this was, but plenty of focus on why all outside forces made her feel like she should do this or that, or lying to keep up and appear to be a "good mom."

I'd like to see less moms give themselves permission to be a self-serving mom, and more moms doing the best they can in their decision making. Even if you can't be perfect, try, at least, to not provide excuses for yourself just to eliminate guilt.

So, an interesting read, but to any future moms, know that this is only one mother's experience and certainly not representative of the average experience.

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